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Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats
Good for you Sweetlove! I think that is just takes time and talking about it. Things will improve!
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Thanks Cats! I hope so
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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
.....the way to keep working through it is to keep talking through it. T knows that and is patient with me in talking about it, and she is honest. Honesty is so key in repairing damaged trust, so key. And grace, the more grace T has, you have toward T, the more that helps too.
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Yes I need to keep talking through it, but I just hope he wants to do, or at least doesn't mind if I want to. I need him to be patient and understanding of what I need from him, which seems like he already is. Can you elaborate more on "grace"?..because I'm pretty sure I know what it entails, but I REALLY want to know when I see it. Thanks Poetgirl
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Originally Posted by WePow
It was hard for me to read your post because it hits home. I am not sure I can be as brave as you were. But you did great!
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Aw, thanks Wepow...I really don't think I was that brave, but it means a lot that you think so. I'm sorry if it upset you...you are THAT brave, you show it with everything you write
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Originally Posted by treehouse
I can honestly say that each time, when the connection DOES come back, it's a little stronger than it was before. T talks about how much trust we have in each other because of how hard we've worked together when we've had ruptures in our relationship.
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This is what I hope will happen. I HOPE that we will be even stronger than before and know it will be ok next time because we trust each other so much. I definatly need to talk to him about that. Thanks Tree
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Originally Posted by granite1
sweetlove i am glad to see that your relationship is on the mend.i know when things like this happen you can feel so lonely and abandoned and scared and all kinds of things but it can feel so good to have it all starting to work out  |
Thanks granite...yes it was SOOOOO lonely and scary, and now I finally feel better which is such a relief!
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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
I agree with those who said you are being very brave and that this is a huge breakthrough for you. Yay for being so assertive!
He sounds very committed to KEEPING you in therapy. I that he said that he will never treat you as bad as you treat yourself (never treat yourself bad, Sweetlove!). If your issue is trust maybe it's ok to allow a couple sessions to recover from this. Maybe it is ok to hold on to that feeling of expressing the righteous anger and still being accepted  . You can rebuild the trust together. |
Thank you Lyib
...T is really trying to get me to be more assertive and that is why he was so happy. He is very committed to me, and I didn't know exactly HOW committed until the other day. It is so nice to hear him say that and be able to replay that in my head when I'm feeling doubtful.