Thread: missing t, again
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Old Apr 04, 2011, 12:22 AM
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its perfectly ok to miss him and to feel sad and to say you miss him and feel sad.

i think it's truly precious how you've been using the break as a such a learning/growth opportunity. i wish your t could see the amazing work you've been doing. until then, we can sit and listen and be your personal cheer squad. be gentle with you.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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