I am twenty one, and show symptoms of mania and depression. My father was diagnosed as bipolar when I was a kid, although I've seen a therapist I've never attended long enough to be diagnosed. Within the last year I've dealt with my minor rapid cycling through stress management. Anxiety was a major trigger.

It's funny the way life works...

I met a guy in January and we fell for one another. The last few months have progressed rapidly, but I believed we were both on the same page. Initially when I met him, he was kind, patient, and humble. We've talked about marriage and kids, the connection has never been better.

Within the last month though I noticed a significant change in him. We began fighting every week, he began throwing ideas around that I thought of him as an object or that I didn't appreciate him. Within the last two weeks, he became more aggressive and easily provoked. He spoke of himself as a wolf, who would lead the pack. He began to associate himself with other males who had disorders; the famous Daniel Johnston, or his friend with Aspergers, or nephew with Autism. He spoke at a rapid pace, and couldn't seem to slow down. He would listen, but not hear anything. He started to become demanding too, he demanded I cook for him, yet never came to eat the food;becoming engulfed in writing raps about his life.

Through all of this I began to think I was in some sort of emotionally abusive relationship.It wasn't until this past week, when he took his five year old nephew in the middle of the night to my home, that I became worried. The next day I tried to make the best of it by getting the boys to the zoo, but my boyfriend was so concerned with making a film about his nephew, who has Autism, that he didnt even enjoy our company. On our way there he experienced moments of what looked like euphoria followed by crying. This lasted almost the whole day.

He was admitted to a treatment center this weekend, where he escaped and was arrested when he broke into another building. They finally submitted him into a place where there is more security and attention to safety. I haven't been able to see him since he's been there. His family tells me that they did diagnose him bipolar and that it does run in his family as well.

My boyfriend uses a low dosage of adderall recreationally on the weekends,
and smokes pot a few times a week. He drinks 5 out of 7 days. We think that amphetamines might have tripped him up. He is a college graduate living at home with his parents, working for his parents in a field he isnt passionate about. He has high stress levels and college loans dont ease that.

I've been sort of a mess but Im trying to become informed in order to get a better grip on things. I am quite impulsive, and to be honest an enabler. I'm worried for many reasons, what if I dont even know his baseline, what if I dont know him at all? How am I to handle being impulsive if he needs the stability he does? How can I manage some of the feelings of depression and mania I experience from his episodes?
I'm hoping to see him sometime this week, once he's had his time to himself.

Im sorry if Ive run on a bit. I dont have family around me, so all the support I could get would be appreciated.
Thank you.