Wow, Protoform, have you noticed that you ask a question and then actually begin to analyze and challenge every response you don't particularily like? It's pretty evident that you had a shearingly painful therapeutic experience, but that doesn't mean that everyone who is experiencing their therapeutic experience as positive and helpful is being conned or that they are in total denial. Maybe their relationship with their therapist has been truly helpful, supportive and healing. It's fine to question what happened during your difficult therapeutic relationship, but I think you need to stay focused on what YOU felt and what YOU experienced rather than question the validity of other individual's therapeutic relationships. Believe me, if they feel a need to bring their own concerns about what their therapeutic relationship means, they will post a thread about it.

I sure hope you're able to find a therapist that will assist you in addressing your concerns. Someone suggested DBT--this might not be a bad idea for you. It's more about developing a set of skills to deal with emotional dysregulation, anger management/assertiveness, mindfulness and dealing effectively with cognitive distortions (you learn to analyze your own cognitive thoughts). You stay in control in the sense that it's cognitively based rather than an attachment style form of psychodynamic therapy. Good luck!