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I feel this way because of his sexual addiction (me not looking like the images he desires to look at)

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it would be great if there were some more guys here to chime in on this, but from what I understand, the women in the magazines have nothing to do with the people in real life. I don't think he's comparing them to you, or vice-versa. I know that when I've seen porn, I'm not sitting there wishing that my husband looked more like the person on the page/screen, nor does he look any worse in comparison afterward.

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when I did ask him "If I was Pretty" (years ago) - he said: Well, you are not ugly. Now what am I supposed to take that as?

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GOD this reminds me of my ex-husband. Are you sure you're not his 3rd wife? This used to hurt me, too. However, in retrospect, he has a problem giving compliments to ANYONE. It is much too intimate for him, makes him feel panicky. I now realize it had nothing to do with whether he actually thought I was pretty or not -- it was that he couldn't get that intimate with me.

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When ever I bring up me being found pretty to him or not now, he does not say a word about it one way or another....

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For this one, see my response above, BUT... he might also be irritated at your insecurity. I'm not saying that he is, but it's a possibility. Maybe he doesn't want to encourage you to fish for compliments like that, so he tries to put an end to the behavior by not feeding into it.

It's a vicious circle. He doesn't compliment you, so you get insecure. Your insecurity prevents him from complimenting you, therefore making you more insecure. I know this routine - I was in it during my first marriage.

My husband now compliments me all the time and I feel pretty because of him. However, he also doesn't feed me if I fish... he says that he wants the compliments to come from his heart, and to not just say things because they are the "right" answer. I respect that about him, and since HE doesn't have an intimacy problem, he is happy to give compliments on his own.

Does any of that apply to your situation?