Hi! I dated someone with bipolar disorder, and the obsessive stuff makes sense to me. Have you done any research or read up on your diagnosis for better understanding? I would suggest that your spouse read up on this too. It helps!

Here's some books on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=...oks-Submit.y=0

I suggest Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder. I read that and it does help.

Hope this helps!