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Originally Posted by Protoform
Probably not. I am too socially dysfunctional to have any woman feel affection toward me. Why do you think I found my relationship with my T so upsetting? Because it's impossible for me to reproduce such type of relationship in the real world. Now I feel crippled and in need something I will never have.
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Have some faith! You WILL be able to change that. You'd need to explore what is making it difficult for you to sustain the kind of relationship you long for in the real world.
Do you want to tell what exactly happened between you and that female therapist? The transference feelings you develop in therapy are ususally interconnected with the kinds of issues that bring you to therapy in the first place. I can see that you definitely have something to work on, and your strong feelings are part of the work. If you think you have a problem with relationships in general that you can't solve alone then continuing therapy would be a good idea - either by going back to your female therapist to understand and work through your transference or if that's not possible, with a new therapist.
But don't lose heart. You'd need to put in some more work but having a good relationship in the real world is a reasonable goal, and can be achieved!