Protoform, I have been a lurker in this form for a long time.
Your post made me register so I would be able to tell you that I totally agree with you and understand what you are going through.

There really is no where else to vent the pain and frustration that transference causes. It is a secret pain. An unfair pain.

As far as I'm concerned, your anger is appropriate.

If I could say anything that would help to alleviate your agony, I would.
I can only offer my understanding.

I'm going through the same thing.