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Apr 04, 2011, 12:15 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Sweetie, I was married to a controlling creep. He would do things like that too. He called me names, and browbeat me into thinking I was stupid for 26 years - until I too believed I was an idiot -- and not worth anything. Finally I'd had enough and divorced him -- I thought he'd kill me - but I moved out of town after he stalked me, called at all hours, etc.
You don't have to be treated like that. You don't DESERVE to be treated like that.  You are a vital, pretty, intelligent person ~ it sounds to me like his bad qualities outweigh his good. You should be treated with RESPECT.
I told my husband that all I wanted was respect - I expect nothing more but I'll accept nothing less. He laughed at me.
If there's any way you can get him into marriage counseling, do it. He sure needs it - but if I'm right, he'll flat out refuse to go because he doesn't think there's anything wrong with HIM.  I hope you're talking to YOUR therapist about your husband.
Best of luck dearheart & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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