Thanks again all. I needed to hear alot of the things you've said. Hard to accept but I needed to hear it. I had another HUGE arguement with my husband today.....which again has proved to me I need to take control of my anger issues. I used to be violent with my anger which I have manged to control for a few years now but today and again a few days ago, I made a swipe for my husband. I am not proud of it and feel totally sick with myself but right now, all my resources are being drained. I felt good the other day but it was a false good. My husband asked me to put a time limit on my brothers staying here and I agreed to 2 months. I have a major issue when it comes to my family, which I should porbably bring up in a new thread as I would like to hear views on it. But anyway, as for my brother situation, I am going to tell him he has 2 months to sort himself out, I will be here for him and help him for the next 2 months but then he is on his own...... I can't afford to go into a depression. I have felt major anxiety after my arguement with my husband and its been coming on in waves all evening. Its now gone 1am and I cant sleep cause of it ARGHHHHHHH