It upsets me how AJ's dad talks about AJ. Saying things like he doesn't want anything to do with AJ..That AJ is a loser and a bum. He says such ugly things about AJ that cuts to the "core" of his being.......
I don't believe in tearing one down especially to the degree the way AJ's dad is talking. Yes, AJ, well, we all know he hasn't being doing what a 30 year old man should be doing.. And yes a lot of negative things can be said about AJ. But there are also positives. The negatives don't out weigh the positives. Just AJ took the easy way, when in many ways, we paved the path for AJ to take advantage of not having to be responsible..
When I mention to AJ's dad that when AJ moved in this house, he should have to pay part of the mortage. This would give AJ a sense of ownership and re sponsiblilty.. His dad did not agree and when I bring it up his dad shuts me out... What can you get when everything is given to someone without expecting "responsibility". You get "nothing". Exactly what AJ did, nothing. He'd hold out his hand and his dad would put "dollars" in it and AJ would go on his merry way to the clubs...
I pretty much have let go....ANd letting AJ find his own way. Thank goodness his dad doesn't give him any more money. I don't know what the future has in store for AJ. I just don't feel it would benefit anyone to tear them down to the core of their being. Calling them losers, trash, a piece of s**t doesn't really solve anything. The only good thing his dad did was stop giving him money. He even gave AJ his car insurance bill, which is a good thing.... The name calling I don't agree with.. AM I still enabling or being too sensitive?
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