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Old Apr 05, 2011, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank View Post
Yeah I think I know what you mean, there is this book called "A General Theory of Love" (forget who the author is now) where the guy argues (based on science!!!), no matter how good a relationship is, if it doesn't "hook" your emotional pattern, then it doesn't feel like love.

P.S. I'm not sure I believe that though
Yeah, I read that book and loved it. I've seen how there were some parts of people's personalities that I would be 'attracted' to even though I didn't like those parts. My T said it didn't matter if I liked it or not; they felt familiar.

For example, my mother was highly controlling, rigid, never displaying love, never hugging, always critical, lots of anger.

Well, guess what? I've been involved with people who have those traits and I hate those traits.
Thanks for this!
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