Thanks sabby.. Your laundry example is a good one.. Actually, I don't pick up his clothes or do his laundry. In fact, I hate how he washes his clothes. He mixes his white t-shirts and white socks with black clothes, which means all of his "whites" are an ugly gray. I couldn't stand it and would bleach his whites. I have since stopped doing that and figured if he doesn't mind wearing gray t-shirts, well then I don't mind either...

I don't cook or pick up after him. I pretty much stay in the basement. Is cleaner there.. grins... The biggest thing and the best thing so far is his dad stopped giving him money.. This is a good thing....

I think I had a weak moment. I know what his dad is doing is the best way. JUst when I mention to his dad any positive thing AJ may have done, his dad brushes me off and lashes out ugly things about AJ and that bothers me.......Actually his dad doesn't believe a word he says..and he has reasons not to believe AJ.. .... anyway.......Guess AJ might deserve some of the things his dad says.. and some things he says is uncalled for....Guess all his dad wants for AJ , as I also want for AJ is to get a job...That isn't asking too much of AJ.... I need to stop feeling sorry for AJ and let him grow up.. Gessh, he isn't a child..

Am glad I started this thread.. It put me back on track...Sometimes I fall off the fence....