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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
I am a bit blinded right now because I feel out of control. I feel worse off. I feel like I have no idea who I am anymore. I feel like quitting every time I leave a session.
Fortunately, we do not live our lives based on how we feel about everything. We make choices based on truths, not feelings. As they say, "Feelings are fickle!" If we let our feelings lead us in life, we would be on a mixed up path with mixed up signs and signals! Like being on the road and having green, red, and yellow flashing lights at the same time. Stop signs at every turn. Pressing on the gas pedal and the brake pedal at the same time! We have no idea what gear we are in: drive, neutral, stop? The result is that we end up crashing!
I do know that importance of feelings, but we (I) cannot let me overpower me. One day I feel one way, the next I feel something totaly different. Sometimes I don't feel anything at all, so I have to put myself on auto pilot for awhile.
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I'm learning that the whole idea of getting in touch with our feelings is so they do not control us. If we're not aware of them; if they remain buried; if they live in the unconscious, they WILL lead us and lead us poorly.
By bringing them into the light and therefore being able to examine them, we kinda de-fang them. My T told me that the emotion part of brain is much more powerful than the rational brain and will control us if we don't acknowledge the feelings and work through them.
Actions/reactions based on unconscious/subconscious feelings can be quite destructive and painful. We must bring the emotions forth so we can lessen their power.