It is hard to always feel like you need to be perfect. I find for myself that I often set up unrealistic expectations and then because they are so unrealistic, failure is inevitable and then I beat myself up for being a failure. A viscous circle. Could you write it down for T? Sometimes it's easier for me to write things instead of saying them....

The need to always be on top of everything and perfect is exhausting...it is the reason I recently had a major relapse and am now trying to put everything back together again. My doctor gave me a good analogy - he said you can only keep treading water for both of you (meaning me and my son and my issues) before you start to get pulled under. I am drowning now, but realizing that I need to take care of myself or I am of no use to others....hope this helps