Very well stated, Perna. I also believe that you can make changes. However, they are not easy to make, take a lot of time, practice, and patience. These things did not develop over night, therefore you will not be able to change them overnight. It is a process and can be a long one. You just have to be willing to commit to it and want to make the changes. (of course this is just my opinion.) Wishing you the best.