I'm not married yet, but i would suggest telling him very calmly how you feel. Tell him that you are hurt. Tell him that you married him because of the way things were then, and try asking him what he thinks happened. It sounds like he is upset at a few things too, but doesn't know how to express himself. If your not ready to move on then your not ready, so at least try talking to him. Oh and try more than once, it might take a while for him to open up.