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Leed · Apr 06, 2011 at 01:59 PM

I was JUST LIKE YOU the whole time I was married to my first husband. Then I went into therapy ~ and my therapist showed me how I could get my Power back. I had always hated confrontation and I kept the peace AT ALL COSTS. Trouble is, it robbed me of my dignity, my integrity, and my self esteem. Then I learned how to stand up for myself!!! Well, guess what happened??? My husband HATED that. Previously, he said the same things that YOUR husband is saying ~ but once I got my "power' back, he didn't LIKE it, because I had an opinion ~ I said NO to things ~ I made decisions!!! At times, I made HIM back down. Boy he didn't like the new me at ALL. But *i* sure did. LOL

He had brow beaten me for 26 years ~ he had emotionally abused me for that long too. In the end, we divorced -- I asked for the divorce. I KNEW I had a better life ahead of me, and I was right. Seven years later, I married the best guy in the whole world ~ a man who respected and honored me.

So I agree that there IS something more to this than what your husband is saying. I don't believe his reasons. Stay in therapy and find YOU just as I did. You DESERVE more than this. It is out there waiting for you. God bless you. Hugs, Lee