thanks you all for opinions.
ya i was just curious about experiences you had.
martin - i want to say ya i do think about those things. but when i do i get irritated because i no it may not last. i want it to because i really do love him and he loves me so much. he lives a hr away atm and i make the drive to see him when i can (weekends)im in school also, and this makes it hard to love him when i want to. its hard to think long in the future, i do have full intent to move back to Germany and he has made it clear he doesnt want to leave his great job hes a computer engineer - so this gets me frustrated to because i have to be lame and fall in love with a man who is rigid like me so yes time will let me see if this wil work out. so many challenges with this.

but thanks again you all for replys.

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