I hear you Sleeps... my own marriage use to be a lot like that - well, until I started to stand up for myself and my rights, both as a person and as his wife.
And while we are still working on some old and new issues in the relationship.... all is better from me standing firm.

What is it that many doctors / therapist say: We teach people how they can treat us...

LoVe,
Rhapsody -