I'm very sorry that you're going through this and I'm glad that you're in therapy that allows you to understand what you're going through.

No one has mentioned this yet, which surprises me, but have the two of you considered going to couples therapy? A couples therapist might be able to help you communicate with each other. If your husband is abusive, I believe the couples therapist will see that and be able to help you with that as well.

Good luck! Try to forget about everyone else once and awhile and really take care of yourself.