...when I read peoples posts about therapy and their relationships with their Therapists and how much it is so ailen from anything I have experienced or heard anyone else experience!! I don't mean this in a nasty way at all, infact I wish my T was like some of the peoples on here!!

I live in the UK and boy does it differ from the USA! I hear people talk about being in therapy for years, some more than 5, 10 or a lot more and that is basically not heard of here. I have never had a T more than a year before basically they make you leave for one reason or another. They just don't do that long term work that I read so much about on here and I really wish they did.

I then read peoples lovely posts about how their therapist hugs them , holds them, says lovely personal and touching things to them, tells them they wont abandon them, or that they see them as a son or daughter, does interesting creative things with them like play a game to distract them or go for walks or lets them curl up on a blanket in the T room, endless touching stories which are soooo taboo here. All of those activites are seen as crossing boundaries here completely and basically never happen. Over here a T would never tell you they weren't going to abandon you, from the begining you basically get the sense from what they say that, this won't last forever, we'll see how it goes but its not long term.

I love this forum, its so good to talk to people who understand what its like to feel different things both good and bad about Therapy but sometimes I read the posts and although they are so lovely, I feel so envious and sad that this will never happen for me

I just want to say if you have a therapist like the ones i have kinda mentioned above them cherish them because some people never find them.

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