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Originally Posted by granite1
squiggle that post about not hiding behind e-mail and jouraling was amazing.i couldnt say it better .now if i could just convince my T this.i journal a lot.sometimes for hours a day.when my T said no more letters and e-mail i felt she just totally cut off any ability i mat have had to communicate.i hate it  |
There is no way that I could do therapy without being able to communicate through email and to bring journal notes into our sessions. It is not like I spend the entire 90 minutes reading. Going over my written homework assignment may take 15 minutes at the most. We then have an hour to talk after that.
I do send about 3 emails per week, but she normally responds to them all in one email. If I am in a desperate situation, she has told me to tell her I need a reply asap. I don't normally do that, but I did once, and she did reply that day. I do have the option to call her, but she prefers that to be only if you are in a real crisis (like having a panic attack, or feeling like you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown, or something tragic has happened). I would rather send an email anyway, that way she can reply when she has time.
Like I said before,
writing is a part of me. You cannot expect to take that away from me in anything that I do. It would be like telling me that I could no longer sing. Yes, I am a singer as well. That would be like saying, "
You need to go to church to help you get better, but you can't sing when you are there. You will have to use sign language!"
That would be totally foreign to me. Yes, we do need to be open to trying different things, but as the saying goes, "
If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it." Writing is not for everyone or every therapist. I am sure therapists have reasons for why they do things. I am just glad that mine is so open about email and journal writing. She wants me to do that. She sees it as healthy for me. I can't say that she does that with every client. For some, it may not be healthy.
I guess another way to explain it would be like this. If someone were a constant talker, telling them they could no longer talk but had to communicate through writing, it would be like cutting their tongue out!
I am sorry that you feel so sad and lonely about not being able to do this with your therapist. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I know I would be crippled if my therapist did that to me. I know how you feel, or at least I can sympathize with how you feel.
