Since Splintered has a T more like the Ts we have in the US, they apparently exist. Splintered, what orientation does your T use? Maybe, dizgirl, you could find one like hers! Do any Ts in the UK use the Internal Family Systems model (IFS)? That's what my T uses, and she and others who use it have a different approach that includes more of what you want.

I find it hard to believe that all Ts in the UK are the same, and Splintered's experience proves it. That's good news for you. Now you may have to do some research, but you can find someone who does therapy in a way that fits you better.