LMo had good suggestions, very good. i doubt that you have herpes though. some of your symptoms don't sound right.

i want to point out, also, that you can transmit herpes without having a lesion of any kind. herpes is there, if you have it. there are two types of herpes but research has shown that they are "interchangeable". the lesions on the mouth can transmit the virus to the vagina/penis. and vice versa. even the expensive medicine that can be prescribed for outbreaks does nothing about killing the virus. it cannot be killed. it just prevents outbreaks.

i would, however, probably change doctors. are you going to a urologist? i believe that they would be the expert for all of your problems, pain, etc. AND has anyone done any kind of scan on the testicles, penis, etc.? i think more needs to be done to find out what your problem is. something that is affecting your life as much as this is, needs to be solved. xoxo pat