I am in the Uk too and agree with you that sometimes I feel a little left out from others experiences with their Ts on here. My T has never hugged me, told me he wont abandon me, sat on the floor with me etc, but then again Ive never had the conversation with him so who knows. I spoke to my pdoc a while ago about the length of my therapy as I was worried I had been in T too long. She told me that many people with certain disorders do stay in T for many years and that thats ok. And most of my Ts patients are with him for less than 6 months (CBT) yet he is happy to keep on seeing me as long as needed (though he is private. I would imagine being ablt to see a T for years on the NHS might be more difficult to come by). Have you been seeing Ts on the NHS? I found that I had to see whichever T was there and didnt really get a choice, evevn though we werent an ideal fit. Its only when I went private that I found a T I liked and who I thought could help. But it is expensive.

I saw an American T years ago. She was my first T and I was in such a state. She told me that if we were in the US I would have sought treatment out long ago. In the UK i guess we a more "stiff upper lip" and therapy can be seen as a real weakness sometimes. Though I think this is getting better. I dont mean to generalise-just my experience