Im not sure if this my personal problem and the way I relate to people or whether its my Ts boundaries but I read so much on here about people knowing their Ts likes/dislikes, and how you know about little things that go on in their lives . Im just wondering how this info comes about...do you ask T "what is your favourite book or what are your interests etc etc" or does T volunteer the info.

My T does tell me personal stories but only when relevant to a problem I have and I would not feel comfortable asking him anything other than what he has disclosed. I am always aware that T is doing his job and we are not friends(even though I wish we could be) therefore why would he want to engage on small talk with me when he has friends to that with. I wish I didnt think like that and could somehow be more relaxed around this issue.

What happens with you and T?