I didn't explain this very well-

what I'm saying is that to some who resist feeling better- it may be that "better" is so open-ended-
like "better than what? Better than who? How much better is required? And mostly- what does being better do to my own role (each part) how do I remain "me" and also add this behavior or affect of "better"

It may sound risky to the whole structure or to parts to change in ANY way and so they close ranks around old ideas and feelings that are familiar- like pain and resistance.
Kathy