I just thought of something. You know how transference works - we somehow apply our issues onto our T's and they can then more easily point things out to us because it's in the here and now with them and it's more easily seen by both of us.

It just dawned on me that my fantasy is that someone in RL would notice a need of mine without me telling them and provide for me happily - That I would be noticed and cared for.

It doesn't take away from the fantasy I still have about what T could do, though