I did this! When I was so upset about things I had done in the past, but could not bring myself to show any emotion or anger, I decided to write about "her".

"She" was selfish and immature and made horrible decisions that are affecting my life today. "She" was a coward and stayed in a marriage that was destroying her, because "She" was too afraid to leave. I hate "her"!

I sent this in an email to my therapist. It was a very long email with a lot of emotion toward "her". As usual, my therapist replied with, "Awesome job! You are allowing yourself to feel something. Keep talking to her. Let her know how you feel about what she has done."

Of course when we met in session, she hit me with, "At some point you are going to have to forgive her. She made mistakes, but she is worthy to be forgiven."