I have been living with my boyfriend for 7 months. He says nothing arouses him sexually. He doesn't care to have sex. When he does once in a while he will finish. He never can get completely hard. I found that he looks at porno. I have no problem with it if it didn't affect our sex. I confronted him about it and he said it did nothing for him. I'm sure he is lying because he still clears the history from the computer. He is a very quiet and shy person. I don't think he has had many sex partners. He knows that I have, so I wonder if he feels unsecure about how he might perform. He seems awkward when we do like he doesn't know what to do. I am the one that always initiate sex. I have to tell him what to do to me far as foreplay. This gets old. You think he would catch on. I don't know what I could do to make him comfortable and not feel awkward. He doesn't like it when I try to discuss sex. I have told him how sexy he is and brag on him thinking it would help. We are both 39. Please help..... We both are getting tired of argueing about sex. He has tried different pills to help and so far nothing is working. I made him an appointment to a doctor, he went and was told he was depressed, so he was put on zoloft. He has only been on it a week, but would like to know what I could do to help him........