Hi, I'm in the UK. I haven't posted recently but my (private, paid by me) T does many of the things you're wishing for. I can see her until I no longer need her, and she often reassures me of this. We have quite an intense relationship to meet my emotional needs and she is very warm and loving and demonstrable.

I think I read somewhere that you are paying to see a private T? If this is the case, you should definitely be able to find what you're looking for, at least in terms of someone who will see you for a longer period of time. I do think that the duartion of therapy depends more on the T's therapeutic model than on the country they're working in. Lots of cognitive-based therapies are designed to be time-limited (e.g. 16 sessions)- and this is what makes them viable on the NHS. Psychodynamic therapies are more open ended and psychoanalytic Ts usually expect you to attend very long term. What kind of therapy are you doing?