Good question to ask! Maybe by sharing how the T doesn't "do" anything but talk with you to help, and challenging her to visit the T ...and speak her mind, she will feel more a part of the process.

The T can help with this, too. I agree with Vicki, above, in allowing and encouraging Anne to write... even to the T with how she doesn't like going and feels stuck doing so with the rest? And, does she feel comfortable enough to come here and post (does she already? I dont' know.)

I would wish you to be able to view her job differently. I really question if she wants to sabotage everything... as it looks to me like she might be a protector of sorts? Protecting others from feeling, or from not feeling... dealing with things others (including you?) might not want to?

Everyone in your system needs to feel understood, imo. I'm glad your communication is increasing. Feeling safe enough to talk is a good step, even if what you hear upsets you. (((safe hugs)))