YES YES YES YES YES! You have a lot of insight, lastyear!
That is so right - you shouldn't have to worry about managing the interaction in therapy. Real life is different, we're all managing everything all the time. But in therapy, the burden of being excellent is on the therapist, not on you! My last T had this reversed, and our sessions would sometimes devolve into these really bad, pointless battles of mutual accusation. I would leave feeling like I wasn't a good enough client...so upside down!
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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
In RL I am often willing to work very hard to make sure the interaction feels safe and respectful. In therapy one of my boundaries is never having to feel like I have to "manage" the interaction, or worry something about the T will make them lash out. Those things need to come naturally... Don't know if I'm really even phrasing this right, but it's something that is just SO new...
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