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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Thanks for this. I like the contrast between this post and your signature too ^^^^ I feel sometimes like the whole thing (therapy) is just this very careful dance around this fact that we're alone. I am working on having the whole thing right now. I call it the donut/hole conundrum. You can have the hole without the donut (I think?) But you can't have the donut without the hole.
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What a wonderful post, lastyear! All too many here are "dancing around" the essential reality of what they're learning in therapy. Which is not a fairytale. Which is not necessarily a happy ending except in a totally tough, adult way. Yes, yes, you are absolutely correct: a very careful dance around the fact that we're alone. You've got it! And have to tough it out by ourselves with whatever scraps of love and intimacy we can scrounge from our partners and children. The donut/hole conundrum. Yes! Yes! Yes! Please, lastyear! Let's hear some more from you about the donut/hole and the reality of post-therapy life! You sound very, very much like you know a lot more about this than most of us do!! Take very good care!
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