Well, to be honest, it's just my third session. So far, I've gotten the hole in relationships. I want that donut so badly!!! I can already taste it!!
It's difficult of course when one's therapist can't love one. I really really adored my old one and he was sort of hatefully over-involved with me, if that makes sense. I do think we can sort of pile on a craving for care, love, "situations" and drama, and still have a lot of avoidance and numbing at the base of that.
Honestly maybe a nice therapist who just lets us be can be an EXCELLENT ROLE MODEL! Fingers crossed on this side, at least. Would be interested to hear your thought son this Ygrec.
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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
What a wonderful post, lastyear! All too many here are "dancing around" the essential reality of what they're learning in therapy. Which is not a fairytale. Which is not necessarily a happy ending except in a totally tough, adult way. Yes, yes, you are absolutely correct: a very careful dance around the fact that we're alone. You've got it! And have to tough it out by ourselves with whatever scraps of love and intimacy we can scrounge from our partners and children. The donut/hole conundrum. Yes! Yes! Yes! Please, lastyear! Let's hear some more from you about the donut/hole and the reality of post-therapy life! You sound very, very much like you know a lot more about this than most of us do!! Take very good care!  |