It took a while before the word was mentioned, or before I remember it being mentioned.....like a couple months. I know I was thinking it would be short term counseling and maybe she did too, so the words boundary and attachment didn't come up for over 2 months, actually, until it was clearer this was longer-term therapy.
I wish she had mentioned it sooner. But in the beginning, my boundaries so tightly restricted keeping her out I don't think it was something she even thought of us as necessary. I didn't want to touch her, have her touch me, be too close, do anything that could be deemed inappropriate, etc.......so it some ways it wasn't necessary to talk about boundaries about touch/hugs specifically until it became more of an issue as I became more attached (which caught me by surprise really!)
Now I have heard it more times than I care to think about.....