I understand the need to "take care of T" I've spent a lot of time more worried about what it is doing to him rather than how it is benefiting me. I think that I take the caretaker role way too often and sounds like maybe you do too. If she seems tired and worn out consistently, that tells me that maybe she needs a break from being a therapist or at least needs to find support for her own issues. I don't think T's can really be helpful if they have too much going on for too long (everyone has a bad day here or there, I'm not referring to that) go with your instinct....all the other posts are right...not all T's are a good fit for all people. Hang in there!