It sounds to me like much of the underlying problem is how you feel about yourself, and the fears of abandonment. Boy oh boy can I relate to that one!

I've been overweight most of my life, and have had to deal with this to a lesser extent myself since I definitely have abandonment issues and to some degree, trust isues as well.

Perhaps it would be helpful to say to yourself, "He's with me, regardless of how I look". Isn't that what counts, anyways?

I agree with the post that differentiated between behaviors and attitudes. Although I am learning recently that attitudes as well as behaviors are choices, the most troubling ones are often the ones that are rooted the most deeply.

What are you doing to increase your self-confidence? Anything you can do that will make you feel good about yourself may help the situation.

Good luck and I hope some of this is helpful to you.