I totally understand the confusion. in order for me to tell all I would have to write a book for anyone to understand.
When I came here to be with him we were very happy , within days of being here I started seeing things that I thought were weird but I tried to think positive and knew the family was close. after the 3rd night of being here . I was told that I couldn't sleep with my b/f in his parents home because HIS sister didn't think it was right so I slept on the couch. The next morning I woke up and he was comming out of the bathroom. I said to him" babe , you left the water running. he said" no, his sister was taking a shower, I asked him why was he in there while she was in there and he said " he was shaving" . he teases her about her back side to put it nicely..she teases him about his hair. If he leaves without saying goodbye to her she freaks out . the part about rubbing her feet . she was laying on couch and he just leaned over and started rubbing her feet...I was so confused and I was so far from home that I didn't know how to react to it. very hard for me to fit in because they are so close..one time I kissed him on the cheek and got blasted for showing affection in their presents ( if that makes since) his mother hated me at first , still not sure if she likes me or just pretending . I don't know...but , I do know that it's not worth the heartache anymore. I am living here in his territory and don't have any friends other than the people I work with . life is so lonely but I believe in my heart it will get better ...it cost way too much to go back home and my kids are settled here now so I am staying for now..this is just a few of the things that are wrong with us....that is why , I am trying to move on without him ..when things were good with us it was great..but , when it is bad its real bad so what is a person to do ? we are like two rats on one of those wheels trying to keep it going and too afraid to jump off or don't know how to stop it...for me , I'm losing a friend and so afraid to be alone its very frustrating.