My therapist is a psychdynamic/psychoanalytic therapist. I chose to see someone who is an analyst after researching what was out there and deciding what I thought would work for me.

She has never mentioned diagnosis (except to confirm BPD when I brought that to therapy after reading about it and feeling that BPD applied to me. Even then she was casual about it and said she doesn't want her patients to get hung up on a diagnosis.) and she has never said the word boundary. We talk about the issue (length of phone calls, for example) and about what works and what doesn't and why and I also have a voice in saying what works and what doesn't and why. We work it out and sometimes I have to accept things that I don't want to, but the open and kind way it is presented and worked out makes it possible for me to do that.

There are boundaries everywhere. We all have them even if we don't name them.
Every one of us is a separate person with separate minds. We get to think what we want and be who we are.
Is there something about boundaries or about others being separate that is hard for you?