I have trouble with how you imagine "getting to know" someone is done and is not "dating". When one first "does" something with another, it is always nice to find one is comfortable with the other but that has nothing to do with whether one is dating or not. We become friends with people we enjoy being with and if they're someone we think we want to be in relationship with, the only way to "relate" is to do it, which is "dating". I get the idea you think all dating is being uncomfortable with a stranger? My husband and I will be going on our date night tonight, (and meeting a friend! :-) at our favorite pizza restaurant.