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Old Apr 08, 2011, 05:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Oceanwave View Post
Suratji, this thread started with your painful fantasy of wanting your T to offer you extra time without you asking for it. You wanted her to anticipate your need. And you are back there again, revolving around the same issue. I think that this must be very important to you, because, as you see, you have created a situation now (though not consciously) where your T needs to anticipate your need to show that she cares. Unless she calls she isn't a good enough T. It seems to me that this issue had to come up for you, and it will be around botherig you until you take it up with T -- and that's where all this seems to be going. It is knocking on your door and begging to be discussed. You can put it off infinitely but I can predict that it will surface again. It came up in the transference but this is also about your real life relationships and your fear of rejection, as you have pointed out earlier. This fear of rejection seems to be bringing lots of painful emotions into your current interactions with others.

yep, I agree, this says what I was thinking too, and says it well.