Hey DivorcedWoman,

I agree with Perna - What would he be doing if you weren't driving him around all the time.

Sometimes men need different types of pressure or influence than women do to respond. they see our "reminders" as nagging.

If you just stop driving him places, he's going to have to get his license, especially if he's going to get custody of his daughter.

And let me ask you this - when you met him, had he already lost his license? Is it possible that you were looking for someone to take care of, or to help? I have tended to do that in my life...look for men that needed help, tending, fixing, taking care of....I'm also very driven but was dating men that were not...also not driving...it made me feel good to be needed and "help" someone. But after a while I realized I wanted someone who could take care of me a little too.

I know you said he's loving but not driven - it's possible there is someone out there that is loving AND wants to do things for themself....