Thanks for the input and advice. So one of the things he relies on me for is to pick up and drop off his daughter for his visits. He has found other people to do this when I've been out of town or when my son was sick. I tend to be available during those times so would it be weird that all of a sudden I'm unavailable to do those things for him after close to a year of doing them?

I am quite frankly really getting a bit tired of it but I don't want to be mean since I am available. But then again I guess if I'm readily available he won't really have an incentive to get his license. Do you have any suggestions of how I can do this without appearing to be mean/unsupportive?

He didn't have his license when I met him but has been able to get it for around 9 months now. We've discussed it a few times but he says he is fearful and that it's going to cost a lot and he doesn't have a lot of money. He kind of gets a bit defensive about it so I've dropped the topic and as I've said try to highlight in other ways like oh, I'm just the chauffer, etc. Hoping he will get the hint.

I don't have a lot of dating experience as I was with my ex-husband for 20 years so I don't know if I'm necessarily picking guys to save the world. My ex-husband was extremely driven but was emotionally unsupportive. I do think there may be something there to picking someone that is needy because I've gone through some difficult life transitions and definitely felt a little needier and low on self esteem. I also felt drawn to the fact that my boyfriend has some difficult life events and issues and that we could relate on that level as well.

Because of my educational and career background I make quite a bit of money. I'm not asking him to be on the same playing field as me but it would sure be nice if he would contribute more. I guess time will tell. I've talked about it with my counselor and she said we definitely have a conflict in values, but I will defiinitely explore it deeper with her as well.

Thanks again for the insight.