KD, you are one of the kindest people I know, and perhaps THAT'S what came out of your abuse. Abusers are mean and evil and flawed, as Sleeps said. You have devoted your life to being and doing the exact opposite of what your abusers did. I think it's a testament to your strength and ability to carry on and do good in the world in spite of what happened to you.

Hugs and love,

Candy