I agree with Ben--most folks just don't understand. I used to be that way--when my ex was having a depressive episodes, I would say stuff like "How you feel is your decision", I may have even said the bootstrap thing (Oh, Lord, please, no!) Within a couple of years, though, it began happening to me. NOW I understand!

So, when someone says those things to you, just smile and say, "Thank You", because they really think they're helping, and then pray "Father, forgive them, they know not what they do"...

DJ