Yes, I agree it would be good for us to seek some counseling together.... we have done it before in the past, but just briefly. I seem to be the one that gets the all help and then he will join me, if and when, the therapist thinks it might be helpful / useful.
All in all this guy (like many other men) do not like talking about their problems with a stranger, males are born solvers and often feels like a failure if they cannot fix the problem themselves - hence the old joke behind why a guy will never pull over and ask for directions, even when honestly lost.

My husband did make a comment to me last night that has gotten me thinking.... he said that if we can fix the problems out side the bedroom - then maybe the bedroom situation would improve, fix its self.... he is just feeling so disconnected from me, he says he feels as though I am not connecting with him on a deeper level, in life not sex.... and in all honesty that does have some truth in it (for I have been feeling this to - even with in the bedroom) - I have felt so unwanted & undesried by him for so long due to his sexual addiction and fear of being close that now when he is changing (for the better) I am still lost.

Any ideals out there ladies to how I might reconnect with my husband out side of the bedroom - in life and in emotional love? What kind of things do you inter act with your husbands or b/fs in?
Hubby likes paintball and I have tried it once with him.... it was fun, but the bruises - OUCH!!

Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -