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Originally Posted by palemoss
Dude I do the same thing too! It's like whenever I start feeling good, hanging out with friends again, dating I suddenly become a nut! And within 4 months revert back, sabotage almost everything with everyone and make it so that i have to hibernate and start all over. this includes gaining 10 lbs in a week, sending rude and offensive text msgs to every guy i ever slept with, and doing ridiculous acts in public places
what to do? at least we know NOW that we self sabotage.
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When I'm in a relationship and have been for a couple months and start to have that feeling like I'm going to sabotage, if I feel that the relationship is going somewhere and trust the person here is what I do: I tell the person I have some issues with pushing people I care about away before they can do it to me (explain a bit if needed) and ask them to not let me push them away. Of course I've done this when I feel I can trust the person and such. Example my current BF (it'll be 4 years soon), I told him after 3 months about a lot of my issues and that I will push, but its b/c I care and feel like I'm going to mess things up. I've pushed more than once and he's always said "you can push as much as you want but I'm not going anywhere." Now I don't do it as often, but sometimes still have the urge to. Just my opinion and what I know works for me.