i think im unlovable sometimes because of mental illness too but i know at the end of the day, those so called "normal" people arent perfect, and people with mental illness can be in relationships and get married. i dont think im the best at giving advice but when my anxiety is high and i have to go somewhere i just get up and throw myself into whatever i have to do that day. my anxiety starts out high but it gets better as the day goes on. kinda like what madisgram said, people with anxiety and phobias are more likely to overcome certain obstacles if they face their fears......its hard but it helps me deal with the anxiety.